SELF CONTROL

The Greatest Virtue

In the counseling class conducted on Friday 3rd February 2023, I learned about Self Control, Self Respect, and Assertiveness.

Self-Control is the ability to control oneself, in particular one's emotions and desires, especially in difficult situations. I have also seen the video about the marshmallow challenge when a child is given a marshmallow and is asked not to eat it until their adults tell them to. But some children don’t have self-control which leads them to eat the marshmallow, and children who have control over themselves do not eat the marshmallow and instead, they are given 2 marshmallows as a reward.

Self-Respect, pride, and confidence in oneself, a feeling that one behaves with honor and dignity. If we have self-respect, we will be able to respect others too. Self-respect should always come first. I found one quote about self-respect a few days ago which was…

“Never beg someone to be in your life. If you text, call, or visit and still get ignored, then walk away. It's called “SELF RESPECT”. -by Steve Wentworth.

Assertiveness is confident and forceful behaviour. Assertiveness may involve rejecting demands “No, I will not loan you money again”, is an example of Assertiveness. I got to know how to keep Assertiveness in ourselves in the following ways…

1. Direct eye contact shows that the speaker is strong and not intimidated.

2. An assertive stance or posture with the right balance of strength and casualness.

3. Tone of voice, A strong voice conveys assertiveness, but raising one’s voice shows aggression and is likely to be met with anger.

4. Facial expression. Expressions that are neither angry nor anxious are essential for sending.

the right message.

I would say that the counselling class taught me so many things. A sincere thanks to Nakkashi Ma’am for teaching us the importance of Self Control, Self-Respect, and Assertiveness.

THANK YOU,

KASHISH KATARIA 7E